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Equality For Michigan…Sort Of

Surely you have heard in the news or from friends that Michigan’s ban on same sex marriage was ruled unconstitutional last week. The update on this situation is that everything has been put on hold. What’s more is that hundreds of couples have actually gotten married once the ruling was announced. Check out this video to get a deeper look at what is going on in my state.

 

 

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Victory for Michigan!

This means my marriage will be legally recognized. This means being able to adopt my son. This means being free and equal in my home state. My wife and I will eagerly watch and see as the process continues. Good vibes.

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Shane, Just Shane

I dedicate this to my younger sister. My straight-except-for-Shane younger sister. Surely you ladies love Shane too.

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Queer Beauty Queen

A remarkable and groundbreaking event recently took place when former Miss America finalist, Djuan Trent, came out as ‘queer’. Although she wasn’t out during her reign as Miss Kentucky, her choice to come out at all is a first in the pageant’s history. She is the first known beauty pageant contestant to publicly announce being a lesbian.

2011 Miss America Pageant

I don’t always talk about freshly out famous people. Mainly because it’s hard to keep up with all of the newbies due to so many taking that refreshing step of coming out. But this is more than just a celebrity outing, this is a step in history. This breaks the barriers created by stereotypes.

Djuan Trent was crowned Miss Kentucky in 2010 and competed in the 2011 Miss America competition, representing her home state. She recently wrote an entry on her blog, revealing her biggest secret.

“So…back to my initial thought. For months, I have been contemplating how I would write this post, how I would position it, when would be the right time to post it. Should I make it funny? Should I make it mysterious? Should I make it serious? Should I pick a special date to do it? Should I build some kind of anticipation around it? Hmmm…ain’t nobody got time for that. I have written and re-written and deleted and restarted this post more times than I care to share, and after all of that I have finally realized: “There ain’t nothin’ to it, but to do it.” So, here we go folks…

I am queer.”

Trent received a lot of backlash for her declaration, she also received a great deal of support. Her decision to come out started to enter her mind during Kentucky’s legal debate on equal rights for same sex couples.

Other pageant contestants have come out in the past, however Dejuan is the only one who has won her state title and participated in the national competition for Miss America.

I mentioned stereotypes above because when thinking of the ideal Miss America, one typically imagines a stunningly beautiful, feminine, glammed up, smiley, barbie doll type of woman. Not exactly the stereotypical ideals of a lesbian. Dyke Barbie? Not so much. But the truth is lesbians do not fit into such rigid parameters. We come in all shapes, sizes, dipsticks, and lipsticks. And evidently beauty pageants as well. Now, I don’t know much about beauty pageants, and I’m sure many of you think unfavorably of them, due to the patriarchal standards backing the pageant industry. But that is another topic for another time. I am now looking at equal opportunity institutions and giving these women the strength to be their very best. For my own lack of knowledge, I will assume these competitions offer that to the wonderful women who partake.

Frankly, I’m proud that Djuan Trent was comfortable enough to come out after being the center of such a feminine arena.  I remember living in the closet when I worked at an all female salon, terrified of the straight women viewing me as perverse or being afraid of me. It seems silly now, but that was a different time, and stereotypes often lead to prejudice so, I played it safe.

I think we can all learn something from Djuan Trent. She is a strong, brave woman, who had the courage to be her true self and share that with the world. I hope more girls can see her as a role model, as Miss Kentucky and as a queer woman.

She is My Heroin, a poem

I’m enticed by heavy petting,
By your sculpted neon light.
I know to what you’re getting,
Your flesh gripping me so tight.

I’m seduced by your reaction
To the wreckage I undress.
Your eyes watch only a fraction,
Of my deliberate finesse.

I’m lured to intoxication
Under the influence of your heart.
You slither with anticipation,
And you spread my heat apart.

I’m inhaling all your pores,
As you drink from my sweet well.
Your mouth pushes inside more,
My river eagerly expels.

I’m turned on by your confession,
While you made me arch my back.
Your love for me with proud concession,
I brush against your hungry track.

I’m learning each and every curve,
Your secretion fills my dream.
Glass-like eyes watching as I serve,
Breathing out a whispering scream.

I’m evolving from my fear within,
And the feelings in my soul.
You are indeed my heroin.
I crave your being as a whole.

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Gay marriage supporters, opponents rally outside trial in Detroit

Two completely different sides in the fight for equality. This video displays the scene that occurred this morning near my home. The trial continues tomorrow morning.

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via Gay marriage supporters, opponents rally outside trial in Detroit.

U-Haul Lezzies

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Everyone Does!

4ff513c5627eed20518855a99e62f7f5As the new dyke on the block, I’m promoting this spankin new blog by committing to posting, staying current, and being raw and honest. Follow me and you’ll see!

Greetings, Lovelies!

Welcome to my new blog. If you are here and you are closed-minded, hateful, unaccepting, or an asshole- you can leave. If you are open, loving, and believe in equal rights- then please stay awhile! 0bf293db7aee82f1cfe3c73a71a16a67Being that this is the first post of the new blog, I’ll keep it short and sweet. There are some exciting topics coming up in the near future, including current debates over same sex marriage and adoption (particularly in Detroit, where I live), I’ll share my experiences with the dating scene, as well as my 6 year marriage to my wife. I’ll also talk about how we started our family, including donor selection, insemination, and now the light of our life, our sweet baby boy. I like posting fun and sexy pictures, music, legal stuff, news, and a smorgasbord of all things lez.

So, sit back, tune in, and enjoy the ride!

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